“You have a choice of two sides with that…”

I looked up at the cashier and got excited I was getting two sides for no extra cost but then again I felt overwhelmed. The worst information to give to an hungry person. I feel the most indecisive when I’m hungry and I always know what I want. But then again nobody really knows what sides they want when they order their food. They wait until they are at the counter staring up at the menu options with the “Uhhh” face to try and decide. This has happened to me so many times. I remember when I was on my way to my friends house and I was picking up some food. I knew exactly what I wanted when I was on my way to the soul food spot. But when I get there I saw so many different things that I forgot was on the menu. I just knew I wanted some turkey wings. But then again I still continued to look around just in case I wanted to try something new. The cashier looks irritated by this point and now everybody waiting in line behind me is even more eager to put their order in. And then I had an epiphany. Some might think I’m reaching with this one but I promise you I’m not. This is not specifically geared towards the ladies or the fellas. This is for anyone who has ever been on any side of a meal.
If you haven’t caught on just yet I’m talking about relationships in MY generation-The Millennials. We are the epitome of microwave everything. Give me something fast & satisfying for the moment and then it’s time to move on to the next thing. We want everything so fast that we order what we think we want. We go for what smells and looks good enough to eat and then we realize it’s not good enough. No need to throw it away because I mean, we did pay for it, right? We just add some extras on the side and hope that it all turns out great. Fast is great but sometimes
When you’re too busy worrying about other people when you’re supposed to be in a committed relationship, it never turns out good. Maybe I’m telling on myself but then again-I told myself I would be a little more transparent this year. Everyone makes mistakes. However, cheating or messing around on the person you say you are committed too has never been and will never be cool. All you’re doing is hurting everybody else around you. This includes your significant other as well as the side pieces you keep in the tuck. Things happen though. I get it. But why not focus on your main course and not worry so much about the sides? The sides are always so good though. But you can’t have your cake and eat it too. You might have messed around on the people you really didn’t care about but you don’t want to be one of those people who tries to do right by The One and gets a pot of Karma at the end of the rainbow.
Now I used to be more of a mac and cheese with some mashed potatoes and gravy sides orderer myself. Hey, if your going to do it do it big right? But did you ever think why there is a need for the sides? The main part of the meal is enough but just not as fulfilling and some extra substance is needed. Just remember, no one has everything. There is always going to be someone that has more of this and more of that. Always someone cuter and smarter. More in shape. You might get close to perfect but trust me, no one has it all. If you’re not ready to date, don’t drag someone along for the ride and hurt so many people in the process. I get that things happen. This is a judge free zone here. I’m just saying pay attention to what you have on your plate or just don’t eat at all.

With love,

-Mo Shands

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